tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1365495031332411316.post5227851624687881161..comments2023-12-21T09:49:15.318-05:00Comments on A Moment Cherished: .Preserving their Innocence.Tiffanyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17435587559894367861noreply@blogger.comBlogger39125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1365495031332411316.post-24504964938494736322013-04-24T19:12:00.070-04:002013-04-24T19:12:00.070-04:00esic6l2r4
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I read your blog yesterday and I want...Hi Tiffany,<br /><br />I read your blog yesterday and I wanted to respond but got very busy. <br /><br />I was not walking close to The Lord when my Kelsey was born and I allowed her to wear the baby bikinis (and other "cute clothes) because I thought it was adorable. It wasn't until she was 5 that I realized how wrong I was in my choices as a parent and I think God for opening my eyes. However, Kelsey questioned me because she was able to wear a bikini the year before...why not now? It was a challenge that I had to overcome and I think The Lord helped me with it.<br /><br />I said all that to say that I agree with your post now although I never would have several years ago. I am thankful that my eyes were opened to the importance of being set apart from the world.<br /><br />But this isn't an issue big enough (in my opinion) for people to get "wrapped around the axel" about. Seriously. It's kids clothes...not the dead sea scrolls. I was surprised by some of the negative feedback and I am sure you were too.<br /><br />Because of Him, my nine-year-old has embraced modesty and I am so thankful for it....but it was a journey to get here.<br /><br />Good for you for starting early.<br /><br />God Bless You and Jim,<br /><br />ErinErinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12022739737785763420noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1365495031332411316.post-62955807488938199582010-04-23T07:29:42.272-04:002010-04-23T07:29:42.272-04:00Okay, I just had to come and give my 2 cents...aga...Okay, I just had to come and give my 2 cents...again... LOL. <br /><br />As far as the sheltering goes. I don't see that as a bad thing. God is the perfect example of a parent and he most definitely shelters us. All throughout the Psalms, the Bible talks about God being our Shelter.<br />Here is just one such passage: <br /><br />Psalm 91:1 Those who live in the shelter of the Most High<br />will find rest in the shadow of the Almighty. 2 This I declare about the Lord: He alone is my refuge, my place of safety;<br />he is my God, and I trust him. 3 For he will rescue you from every trap and protect you from deadly disease.<br /><br />The other thing mentioned by other commenters is that when we 'shelter' our kids too much then they won't know how to deal with the world when they get out of the house. I don't think this is true either. As I mentioned in my earlier response, God tells us to be wise about what is good and simple about what is evil, and he tells us to get wisdom all throughout the proverbs and then tells us that wisdom is PURE... And the verse that Tiffany mentioned about thinking on things that are good and true and lovely, etc. Do you really think that God will tell us that, and then say "Well, you do that, but I'm not going to give you the skill and guidance to cope with the evils in the world when you go out into it." I mean, really? What kind of God do you think he is? He loves us, and guides us, and protects us, and leads us... Not just when we are sheltered in our home, but when we face the choices and evils of the world as well. Knowing what is good IS enough to guide us... God doesn't say we need to dabble in evil and sin and experience it on the fringes so that we know what we are up against. NOPE. He says he wants our hearts to be pure, good, true, honest, innocent... When you are full of light, it is easy to recognize darkness...Melissahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03441766598211586159noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1365495031332411316.post-9707607302110281972010-04-23T00:25:43.724-04:002010-04-23T00:25:43.724-04:00First time reading your blog and really like this ...First time reading your blog and really like this post. I have 2 daughters, 12 and 9, and both are naturally modest. My 12 yo refused to put on a bikini when she was 3. It had to be a one-piece and to this day she will only wear a one-piece. No short skirts or spaghetti straps either..her choice. My 9 yo follows in her big sisters foot steps although she will wear skorts with leggings underneath. There are modest clothes out there that are fashionable. <br />The world isnt raising our children, we parents are. We have to set the example and walk the walk. You cant have mom wearing short skirts and strappy tank tops and then turn around and tell her daughter thats inappropriate for her.<br />As for "sheltering" our kids too much...kids do have brains and freely discussing these issues with them in a gentle way will prepare them as they grow up and eventually go out into the world. They will do what is right for them. <br />Thanks for the post! <br />~LynnAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1365495031332411316.post-33692795057149125852010-04-22T23:23:30.659-04:002010-04-22T23:23:30.659-04:00Just wanted to share a funny little story with you...Just wanted to share a funny little story with you all about this very thing that happened today. My 6 year old son and I went to WalMart and met a woman like I described above (the one who thinks she is gracing you with her cleavage)and my son threw his hand over his eyes and quite loudly (not to be mean to her but out of his shock) said..."Didn't need to see that!" <br /><br />Thought it was funny how it went hand in hand with your post today.<br /><br />And to address the hiding behind anonymous I don't think what was meant was to all those who post anonymously just those that post critically or nastily...just what I interpretted anywho.My Hearthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07130419060842560213noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1365495031332411316.post-57121116742103857782010-04-22T22:24:08.573-04:002010-04-22T22:24:08.573-04:00Great post! To me, the bottom line is that we are...Great post! To me, the bottom line is that we are accountable for how we raise our own children, not whether other people think they're too sheltered or something. Good for you for keeping your kids as far away as possible from the filth that is all around us in our culture. <br /><br />As far as how we handle TV, it is pretty easy since Z is only 2, I totally control what he watches - we have satellite TV with DVR (like Tivo) and I tape certain shows for him like Barney or Sesame Street & give him the choice of one of those per day (or sometimes none if we're gone/busy). <br /><br />I have my first daughter now, and I never thought as much about the modesty of little girls until she was born! But, yeah, I plan to put a shirt under her spaghetti strap dresses that people have given us, and I plan to have her wear one piece swimsuits. It is crazy to see what's out there for even little teeny girls!<br /><br />As far as your nasty anonymous commenter, I am sorry that they were so rude to you. This post was very good and thought-provoking, I'm glad you wrote it.Carriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10702958291049563341noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1365495031332411316.post-9047223581630418742010-04-22T21:36:03.500-04:002010-04-22T21:36:03.500-04:00Kevin brought it to simple terms as we talked abou...Kevin brought it to simple terms as we talked about it...not allowing them to be desenitized because of over exposure but to be aware of how to protect themselves when they are walking in the mall or facing a temptation...akrhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10828054560267505522noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1365495031332411316.post-37442750143681882692010-04-22T21:31:48.615-04:002010-04-22T21:31:48.615-04:00hi tiff! you controversial woman you! :) haha. ...hi tiff! you controversial woman you! :) haha. <br />lovely post. i was just thinking (ie worrying-oops) about my boys and how in the world we can win in this area. even at 3 nic is seeing things, i am sure. and heaven help me if i have a daughter. :) <br />no matter what, i think the way we are raised and what we are exposed to or not exposed to shapes who we are. God has placed parents in authority to mold little ones, but we can't be God. what a relief. we can only do what we think is right. i think we can all agree what an awesome responsibility we hold.Sarah Burkehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06048887615192134891noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1365495031332411316.post-50382061147682440032010-04-22T20:06:45.011-04:002010-04-22T20:06:45.011-04:00I am one of those "anonymous" people, I ...I am one of those "anonymous" people, I began with "This is a wonderful post....". I did not put my name as I do not have a blog. I am not "hiding". My name is Alida. I am a Christian mother of 4. <br />I don't agree with getting nasty or "mad" about other peoples opinions. People hold very different opinions on everything in todays society. I think it's great that people open up and express their opinions and we get to learn others thoughts on various different subjects.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1365495031332411316.post-8813757286964360152010-04-22T16:58:52.155-04:002010-04-22T16:58:52.155-04:00This is a really awesome post! Thank you for shari...This is a really awesome post! Thank you for sharing your heart on this issue. Too many people do not discuss it for fear of "offending" or "judging" others.KalynBrookehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13691277645295731689noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1365495031332411316.post-55872555597598253152010-04-22T16:37:00.691-04:002010-04-22T16:37:00.691-04:00My name is Brooke and I think you are doing the RI...My name is Brooke and I think you are doing the RIGHT thing. I wish my parents had sheltered me more.Brooke McGlothlinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18337482241884998704noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1365495031332411316.post-81297715356531140132010-04-22T16:32:56.823-04:002010-04-22T16:32:56.823-04:00Wow. Way to take a lame, cheap shot. You'll be...Wow. Way to take a lame, cheap shot. You'll be back... they always come back...<br /><br />I very much appreciate all the "discussion" here today! Having been raised somewhat sheltered and choosing to raise my girls in such a way it's easy to relax and think that loosening the reigns may be ok... but I've found this all rather encouraging. The pursuit of purity is a noble one and I feel blessed to know there are others pressing on to the same goal- to honor God and seek His ways above the world's :)Theresahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07535882953531439137noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1365495031332411316.post-69630643421106042892010-04-22T16:21:22.975-04:002010-04-22T16:21:22.975-04:00Well I guess I just stumbled on a close-minded blo...Well I guess I just stumbled on a close-minded blog. Will leave it alone. Not going to sign my name as I do not own a blog. Cannot see waisting so much of my childrens lives on a blog, like so many others do. leaving now. For good.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1365495031332411316.post-68618108830322622422010-04-22T16:17:20.487-04:002010-04-22T16:17:20.487-04:00I really don't think that we need to dress our...I really don't think that we need to dress our children in petticoats down to their feet (as was pointed out by an anonymous above) and <b>I don't believe that is what is being said in this post at. all!</b> Children can be modestly dressed without looking like they stepped out of Little House on the Prairie.<br /><br />Obviously I can not shelter my children from seeing someone walking in a mall who is scantily clad or has decided the whole world is priviledged to see her cleavage for free. But I can talk to my children about it when they are shocked that someone would want to represent themselves to the world that way.My Hearthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07130419060842560213noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1365495031332411316.post-73998368318571915322010-04-22T16:07:35.182-04:002010-04-22T16:07:35.182-04:00Tiffany,
It's encouraging to know that you...Tiffany,<br /><br />It's encouraging to know that you're trying to parent your children in a way that preserves their innocence for as long as possible. I feel as though it's something that isn't valued enough today. We have forgotten what purity is, and forgotten that we are to be holy, as God is holy. I commend you for how you are raising your children, and can only pray to do as well when I have my own.<br /><br />AnnieAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1365495031332411316.post-39408033858701824722010-04-22T16:05:51.197-04:002010-04-22T16:05:51.197-04:00I love this post!!! I only have a 2-month-old, but...I love this post!!! I only have a 2-month-old, but preserving innocence is SO important. I am so thankful that my parents preserved my innocence for so long. Once lost you cannot get it back.<br /><br />Thanks for coming by my blog! :)Annahttp://hoperoadblog.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1365495031332411316.post-37595749677916199522010-04-22T16:02:49.499-04:002010-04-22T16:02:49.499-04:00It never ceases to amaze me that we hide under the...It never ceases to amaze me that we hide under the "anonymous" tag for our negative feedback--WOW! Oh well, This is Jim, husband of Tiffany... I have to say that some of the counter arguments here seem foolish... not because you disagree, but for the sake of your reasoning--think about the ends to your argument--when does the line of reasoning stop? Is it after the "innocent" glance at "cleavage"? Or when he sees the soft core porn scene in mommy and daddy's movie? Then what is the lesson? Is it, son, don't worry about that--just laugh at the crude humor... <br />And, not that I have anything against petticoats... but have you taken a moment to look through the photographs on this site? Talk about a straw-man...that is not even a remote reflection on the standards we hold for our children.<br />Honestly, I think you (anonymous) have bought into a system that justifies your actions at the hands "teaching through real-life." As parents, we must lay aside ourselves for the value of our children... and that does mean protecting them from the pitfalls of worldly thinking... even if it cost you a little entertainment.<br />PS-you are welcome to disagree-just be brave enough to attach your name to it.Jim Darlinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00201315268716277709noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1365495031332411316.post-14827671122815729492010-04-22T15:44:10.246-04:002010-04-22T15:44:10.246-04:00I agree with everything you shared.
I have three b...I agree with everything you shared.<br />I have three boys and my husband and I have discussed many times what is appropriate and what is not. We are very particular what they watch on tv, videos, etc. Even though we don't have to worry about bikinis, we do have to think about inappropriate slogans or designs on t-shirts. <br /><br />We believe that our job as their parents is to protect them and teach them right from wrong. It doesn't matter what the world thinks is right; it matters what God thinks is right.<br />And it doesn't bother me that some people think we shelter them too much. I am not accountable to other people; I am accountable to God.<br /><br />However, I do want for them to be able to function in the world. And at appropriate times, we discuss things. My 7 year old (my oldest) and I just recently had a discussion about modesty. He saw a Victoria's Secret commercial while watching Extreme Makeover- Home Edition. (something I thought was fine, but I forgot about the commercials, not always diligent enough) We talked about why it is harmful to see women dressed immodestly and he told me it was because he would be breaking a commandment. "Adultery, mom." (d'uh) I was so proud of him.<br />At appropriate times, we talk about the world and how the world does things and why it is wrong. So we hope that they will not be unprepared.<br />In any case, we still feel it is more important to honor God's view of things than man's. And for our family, this means sheltering our children.Lisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16188612719221876107noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1365495031332411316.post-83389273733623173192010-04-22T15:21:50.081-04:002010-04-22T15:21:50.081-04:00Not sure if I agree with this at all. How will you...Not sure if I agree with this at all. How will your children ever survive in the "real world"? What will your son do when he gets out of your clutches and sees a little cleavage? Will he be scarred for life??? Will your daughter live in petticoats down to her feet her whole life? That is not the kind of life I want to promote for my children. How will they ever learn to critically think if you never allow them to experience anything outside of your perfect safe haven. I think maybe you should rething this whole thing. I think you are going to teach your children to live a very fearful, shallow life. Just sayin'...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1365495031332411316.post-31204716489005758162010-04-22T15:14:39.696-04:002010-04-22T15:14:39.696-04:00This is a wonderful post.
I think this is someth...This is a wonderful post. <br /><br />I think this is something all parents (well most...) struggle with while raising children in today's society. I do, however, agree with Anonymous. You want to be careful as to "sheltering" your children TOO much. I don't necessarily believe all these things should be completely hidden from children, but children must be taught how to properly deal with these things and what is right and what is wrong. Thank you so much for sharing your opinion, I really enjoy reading and seeing what others views are on different subjects, such as this. Have a wonderful, blessed day!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1365495031332411316.post-42848793192374023662010-04-22T14:22:30.122-04:002010-04-22T14:22:30.122-04:00This is a great post.
I am grateful that we cho...This is a great post. <br /><br />I am grateful that we chose to talk to our kids about why we believe the way we do from a very young age. It's helped as they've gotten older.<br /><br />Our oldest daughter turned 11 today and while some of the other girls her age wanted cell phones and huge parties, she just wanted lunch with her family and a build-a-bear.<br /><br />Just keep standing tall and form in your convictions. :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1365495031332411316.post-33537114877319816902010-04-22T14:08:56.539-04:002010-04-22T14:08:56.539-04:00I believe that (as a Christian myself) if you shel...I believe that (as a Christian myself) if you shelter your children TOO much, they will rebel. My daughter watches cartoons every day, plays outside every day (unless it's raining) is read to every day, and is taken care of. We struggle financially but no one would know it if they saw our house. I'm just saying, I was sheltered a lot as a child mostly due to being in a small town with literally, a churh on EVERY corner (believe me, they're in the guiness book, no lie). My parents raised all 3 of us to be good Christian girls. But, now that I'm older and I live in a big city I notice all the things I missed out on as a little girl and as a married woman, I tried new things, the casino, having a drink (and I'm talking maybe 2 per year) and I literally felt like Hell was calling my name for doing these things. That's just NOT the case. I love and protect my daughter NO matter what, but don't shelter your kids TOO much!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com